What Is It With Men?

This has been stressing me out for a while now. And I think it’s only right I should put it out there and get all of your opinions on this. Guys and girls.

Here’s what happened;

I’m on my way back from work, during rush hour on what felt like one of the longest days of my life. I was going out for drinks as soon as I dropped my bag off home so I’d done my make up in the office and fixed up a little bit. Now I don’t know about you, but getting on the tube during rush hour has got to be one of the most annoying experiences EVAH (no typo). I’ve made it from Whitechapel to Kings Cross on the tube, which to me is a relief now I only have to get the Victoria Line straight to Brixton. I’m on the platform, just listening to music and the tube says seven minutes. (Which believe me, is a hell of a long time in ‘tube world’).

Next to me, is the cutest guy ever. He’s noticed me, I’ve noticed him. Someone’s walked past us and dropped their travel card without noticing and we’ve both bent down to pick it up as it blows towards the platform edge. Sidebar: I know how cliché this must sound. Anyway, we’ve both laughed, he’s run to give the travel card to the lady and come back to stand next to me. We’ve had a laugh and a joke about “No way would I have tried to catch it if it had blown into the tracks” and we’ve started talking. He’s 23, he lives local (in his own flat) but works in Kings Cross, he works as a manager at a mechanics and he’s got a little sister who he adores. He’s 5 foot 7. I’m 5 ft 5. He’s sort of a Chris Brown look-a-like with gorgeous eyes a silver stud in his right ear and a very cute dress sense.

We’re still talking, just general chit chat, he’s taking a real interest in what I do and we’re laughing cause he completely doesn’t have a clue about Grime music but loves it anyway. He’s basically really perfect.

The train’s arrived, and we’ve both gotten on it. Him first. Now please, at this part of the story think how packed Kings Cross station is at 6:30pm on a weekday and imagine how many people were trying to get on this same train. There’s one spare seat. He takes it. I swear to you, he sat down in the seat and casually carries on the conversation. “Yeah so you were saying.”

What? Did you just not offer me the only seat on the train? Did you just sit down and completely ignore the fact that I’ve got a massive bag hanging off my arm? Like what????

I haven’t said anything; I’ve just put my bag down on the floor and carried on listening to what he’s saying. We’ve got to Brixton and left the station. Then there was that ‘awkward’ moment. Lets be adult about this now, we all know what ‘awkward’ situation I’m on about. The part where you’re about to say bye to the person and you’re not sure whether you shake hands, hug, just say bye and walk off, exchange numbers, like that kind of awkward.

The conversations drawn to an end, he’s said (iQuote) “I don’t normally do this but I’d like to get to know you a bit more, you seem like a really nice girl, you don’t have to if you don’t want too but maybe we can go out for a drink sometime.” At this point my heart is beating like mad! Every part of me head is saying “Yes Chris Brown look-a-like who I’ve only known for 20 minutes. I’d LOVE to go out for drinks with you”. I smile and get ready to give one of those casual “yeah I suppose so” looks. “So can I have your number then?” he says…

“No”. Was my answer? “But it was nice talking to you, maybe I’ll see you around”. I smiled and walked off. He looked completely hurt/shocked/baffled/amazed. But he smiled when I turned and said “Nice meeting you too darling.”

I’m walking off, completely kicking myself that I never gave him my number. BUT. He took the last seat on the tube, so casually, that’s not very nice. That’s not very… what’s the word? Manly, of him. I wasn’t having that. No way… No girl should stand for that, it’s inconsiderate… Right?

Anyway, since then I’ve seen him on my travels from work and after about the sixth time I gave him my number. I presume we’re going to get married and have gorgeous Chris Brown look-a-like babies and live in the Bahamas etc etc. I haven’t told him about the ‘seat’ thing yet. Cause I still think it’s a liberty. But I’m right to be annoyed… right?

Answers on a postcard…

Toodles.

Sian

Posted by Sian at 11:09 pm on January 10th, 2010

Categories: Debate.
16 Comments »

16 Responses to “What Is It With Men?”

  1. Lee (TeamSupreme), on January 10th, 2010 at 11:43 pm Said:

    You’re fully right. I offer my seat to anyone if they have to stand whilst I’m seated, and they don’t have to even be as hot as Chris Brown! Big pause.

  2. Therryi-Jay, on January 10th, 2010 at 11:49 pm Said:

    Ohhhhh Si-angela that has got to be the funniest thing I’ve ever read! I was proper into it, a great read I must say! hahahahahahahah!! I wanna meet this guy! Has he got a Trey Songz lookalike friend or something? hmmm.

  3. Davina, on January 10th, 2010 at 11:50 pm Said:

    He sounds perfect (minus the Breezy overbite, I hope?)… one thing concerned me about this, though. He’s 5’7, you’re 5’5… therefore won’t be able to wear heels around him? Even if you thought he was worth the lack of heels… on special occasions a hot dress can only be complimented by some killer heels, non?

    But apart from that & the lack of chivalry (it’s not dead)… sounds like a winner.

  4. Oloni, on January 10th, 2010 at 11:55 pm Said:

    Sian, lmao hes an idiot I don’t like him already. I#m perplexed as to why he didnt offer you the seat too. His mother obviously didn’t raise him right the cheek ! He obviously didn’t see the big deal. So hes what we consider “waste”. .

  5. The Badderman, on January 10th, 2010 at 11:55 pm Said:

    Well, theres a few ways to look at it…

    You give him your number 1st time around, and just be aware that he’s potentially partly socially inept. Maybe he really doesnt do this very often, because if he did he’d know better.

    For example, if i’d know that ‘this is me’ from the 1st time i seen you at the station, and wouldnt have made such a schoolboy.

    On the positive, he took it well when you didnt give it to him. Ultimately, if he’s smart, he’ll know you’re travelling to/from work and will see you again…

    All in all, it’s ‘I have no game’ vs ‘I have no manners’

    http://www.twitter.com/thebadderman

  6. Frankie, on January 10th, 2010 at 11:56 pm Said:

    Yeah man fully took the piss. I wouldn’t have done that Sian. Although, I doubt the pair of us would’ve had such a romantic altercation. :D .

  7. Loukia, on January 10th, 2010 at 11:58 pm Said:

    Nah that is a par but it’s a forgivable one. Especially if he’s fit/nice/both.
    Anyway. Can I be bridesmaid at the wedding?
    Me and Tempz gonna smash PLLLLLAAAATTTEEEEZZZZZ.

  8. Craig Mason, on January 10th, 2010 at 11:59 pm Said:

    Sounds like you’ve shot yourself in the foot…

    The culture on the tube is very different to other situations. Let’s say you gave him your number. When you met him, you could have asked him why he didn’t give up his seat. Perhaps he would be mortified if he realised his lack of chivalry!

    If it turns our he was an arse, then fair enough. But now you’ll never know :)

    Back in school, there was a girl I quite liked, and she made a seemingly derogatory comment about me. I was going to ignore her, but I figured that wouldn’t help me. Since then, we got together, and I’ve now been with her for 7 years ;) I raised the issue of that ‘comment’ with her, and she was completely shocked and apologetic.

  9. CrayolaR, on January 11th, 2010 at 12:05 am Said:

    WOW!!!
    I actually rate you highly.. VERY HIGHLY FOR THIS!
    Men Today Are So Un-Chilverous Its Disgusting..
    I Mean.. I’m Not Saying They Do EVERYTHING For You..
    But THE LAST SEAT.. failings…
    But good luck with him!!! Lol
    Tell Him To Fix Up.. Then Tell A Friend To Tell A Friend!!!
    HahaXx

  10. Luca, on January 11th, 2010 at 12:11 am Said:

    PAR

  11. mervin, on January 11th, 2010 at 12:13 am Said:

    Haaahhha although he should’ve given you the last seat maybe he was so into you he forgot his manners. I forget to open doors for girls sometimes but only cause I’m trying to listenin to what they’ve got to say. Haaahhhha na I’m lyin, he just wanted to sit down. He’s a mechanic so he was probably on his feet all day.

  12. Lee (TeamSupreme), on January 11th, 2010 at 12:16 am Said:

    Can I help Loukia?

  13. mervin, on January 11th, 2010 at 12:22 am Said:

    Meeting on the tube Is nuts…… Wait a minute, wait a minute. Kings cross to Brixton, he made you standup all the way to briccy. That’s alot of stops for someone to be standing up. You should’ve reach for the baseball bat, swinggggggggg, he’s on the floor, no movement, he’s on the floor. P.s
    Sorry for typos I’m on my berry

  14. Tjayne, on January 11th, 2010 at 12:42 am Said:

    Ermmmm is nobody else worried about the fact that after rejecting this man, you saw him SIX TIMES on the way home from work??? Looking at the first para, it appears you hadn’t seen this boy before, so WHY ON EARTH is he making such regular appearances upon rejection. I’m slightly worried!

    Other than that, he sounds HOT lol and good on u for not dishing out ur number on the first encounter! Perhaps he isn’t a stalker. I think he was just really into you, his efforts still worry me slightly though haha.

  15. Sian, on January 11th, 2010 at 2:00 am Said:

    Haha TJayne I started my job at Live east member so I never had to go that way to/from work before looool…
    Craig Mason makes a very good point though. I slightly “shot myself in the foot” LOL.

  16. Craig Mason, on January 11th, 2010 at 2:09 am Said:

    I must have skipped over that bit where you finally gave him your number! Glad you finally gave it to him ;)

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